Difficult people are, well, difficult. And they crop up routinely. In some lives and situations, they abound. And we can’t avoid ‘em: we’re social creatures.
Navigating around annoying beings without provoking their ire or hurting their feelings is an art, and not necessarily one that’s innate. But it can be learned. And the first step is learning something about THEM.
Astrology’s a useful tool here, because it can help us understand the situation and its circumstances. Relationship is defined by dynamics, those between people and those imposed by the environment. Figuring out which is essential, because sometimes perfectly lovely people have lousy dispositions; and sometimes they’re just having a crappy day.
What to do? Find their birthdate and find yourself an astrologer.
Preferably this one.
Occasionally I get asked, “How often should I see an astrologer?” That’s a tough one, because it varies, depending on the need. A better question would be to ask yourself WHY you want to see an astrologer.
• Do you want some perspective on what you’re going through at work?
• Do you want to check out the dynamics between you and that incredible person you just met?
• Are you looking for the right time to get married or start a business or take some time off?
MORE importantly, do you want to understand yourself better? Because there’s work involved—for you as well. But this, to my mind, is the best use of an astrologer’s expertise. Getting to know your own cycles (and the astral weather that affects ‘em) is the first step towards learning to live with them.
So, let us say you are committed to this idea of knowing yourself. How often should you come?
My own feeling is that you SHOULDN’T have an astrological reading any more often than once a month. You need time to digest what you’ve heard, to check it against your own experience. A month is a lunar cycle (29 days), which gives you a chance to entertain every mood the Zodiac can throw at you, plus a hefty dose of whatever else the astral weather may contain.
Two months may be too long an interval period, because self-knowledge requires attention, and you might miss something crucial in the flood of planetary events—which will affect you still, but you’ll lose your sense of the flow of things, that evolving sensitivity to your own processes which a lunar-monthly check-in affords.
That said--for some folks, a yearly check-in is enough. Annual cycles are based on the Sun, the outer personality; monthly cycles follow the Moon through the ebb and flow of the inner nature.
Why do it at all? Because—if you know yourself well enough—you’ll be able to answer your own questions!
I believe in astrology. I have NO IDEA why, as a system, it works: but it does; and for me that system is both logically comprehensible and eminently useful. Now I don’t for a moment imagine that whirling hunks of rock in the sky have an immediate effect upon affairs here on Earth, but I find them a reliable reflection of what’s happening around me. As above, so below: you betcha.
“Don’t know why/There’s no sun up in the sky/ Stormy weather…”
Remember that astrological respite I hinted at last week? Um, er, ahem…I was wrong. The next two weeks bring us Mars squares, first to Pluto, then to Uranus. Brace yourselves, folks: this could be a bumpy ride.
Mars triggers any planet it transits. And it will be setting off Plutonian transformation and Uranian revolution. Relative to world events, these are powder kegs about to be detonated. In the lives of ordinary mortals, these are still powerful energies heralding CHANGE. Major, major stuff going on in our lives. Interesting times.
What to do? Nothing. This is weather, folks, as sure as any thunderstorm or heatwave, and there’s not a thing we can do about its arrival—except be prepared. Understand that resistance is futile, and so we’d better work WITH the enormous amount of energy swirling around us just now. Don’t panic—USE it. Where do these change-bringers fall in our charts? In which sectors are we change-resistant?What can we keep and what needs to go?
That these mighty aspects fall within a Mercury Retrograde period is actually a kind of protection: since we are already minded to look backwards at our lives, we are already spotting and correcting our mistakes. The energy of Mars can give us the boost we need to make necessary changes; the seeming direness of the astral atmosphere just adds urgency and lends power to these transformations. We can actually get more done than we could do in normal periods—whatever normal might be for any one of us.
According to Mark Twain, "Everybody talks about the weather but nobody does anything about it." Well—give the weather in your life some thought. What needs doing? The aspects in the sky should help you figure it out.
Mercury goes Retrograde Saturday. Time to re-consider. Everything.
I love retrograde Mercuries: they’re FUNNY. Everyone has stories of annoyance, delay, coincidence, trains or planes missed, loves lost, loves found, the lone slipper at large under the chaise lounge—the anecdotes range from the tragi-comic to the merely silly, but they almost always contain an element of humour, appropriate to the Trickster Planet.
Retrograde Mercury’s message: LIGHTEN UP, PEOPLE!
April got away from me. So did most of May: I was puzzling over April. Sometimes there is so much astral weather going on that I cannot write a blessed thing.
What’s been going on in the sky since March has been monumental. In April alone we had one of the tightest, lengthiest, and most intensely all-encompassing Grand Crosses I’ve ever seen in my astrological career—plus two eclipses and another exact hit of the Uranus-Pluto square. Roughly translated from the Astrologese, EVERY PLANET was engaged in nearly-exact aspects, mostly difficult, reflecting the tumultuous tenor of world affairs. To paraphrase the old Chinese curse, we’re living in interesting times.
Ariel Harper Nave
“I believe that there is NOTHING sent us that we cannot handle if we know ourselves well enough and that’s why I do what I do.”